Jo Muirhead is my guest today, and I’m so excited to bring you another sponsor for the Shine Retreat, which is coming up next month.

I met Jo at a business/work retreat in 2015, and she was one of the coaches at the event. We had an immediate connection, and I know you’re going to love her, too. Jo has a brilliant straight-forwardness that’s mixed with kindness, passion, and compassion.

She truly believes in connecting people to purpose through inspiration and innovation.

Some of the things we’re going to go over are how work is something that we DO, not something that we ARE. We’re going to discuss safeguarding against burnout when work is our only identity.

As a Rehabilitation Counselor, she is at the intersection of how we manage our health and the work that we do. After someone leaves rehabilitation services, people often wonder what they are going to do for the rest of their lives. This is where Jo steps in.

Jo is all about connecting people to purpose through inspiration and innovation. Author of The Entrepreneurial Clinician, she is also the Founder and Principal Consultant of PurpleCo - a team of specialist allied health consultants dedicated to helping people who experience injury, illness, and trauma reclaim their lives through work. Jo graduated from the University of Sydney with a Bachelor of Health Science, Rehabilitation Counseling in 1994. Jo is passionate about the health benefits of work and truly believes that everyone has the right to meaningful and rewarding employment. PurpleCo grew out of this belief as a truncated form of PURpose for peoPLE. 

Show Highlights:

• Allied Health Professionals - a collective of professions including occupational therapists, speech pathologists, physiotherapists, and audiologists.
• Rehabilitation services help people manage chronic health and chronic sickness.
• As a Rehabilitation Counselor, Jo helps people learn how to take back their lives.
• Over the last few years, Jo has been working with Allied Health Professionals, working out who they are, who they serve, and how to create a lifestyle that allows them to do good work. “Good work” - there is no clinical definition of it and it’s a path that everyone needs to go on and define for themselves.
• When we’re not respected, and don’t have control over our workloads, and when we don’t agree with the outcomes we’re asked to achieve, we burn out.
• Institutionalized thinking has created a culture of fear among health care professionals, particularly mental health professionals.
• When this happens, health care workers tend to feel less engaged with our work and question our decision to be a health care professional.
• When it gets harder and harder to keep going, some people jump into private practice, thinking it will solve their problems, when, in fact, it creates new ones.
• The day and age of the autocratic, dictatorial boss have come and gone. In the companies we love to support, we can see dynamic, enthusiastic workplaces, with a different approach to management. In companies that offer unlimited annual and sick leave and studies show that workers are not taking advantage of the extra time off, but are actually being more productive.
• How do you get the best out of me? Don’t undermine me; don’t disrespect me; give me some choice; if my ideas are good, let me own them.
• Nutrition, giving your brain a break, managing your emotions, managing your social and emotional intelligence, and constructively dealing with managers are all part of taking care of our health at work.
• Jo discusses 3 key indicators of burnout:
• Overwhelming fatigue (differentiated from just being tired) that is not resolved through rest

• Akin to walking through cement
• Fatigue can be confused with depression, as fatigue can be a depressive symptom 
• Incredible need to over-exert and over-work, for fear that somebody finds out that you don’t feel well. (Overcompensate by doing more, being more, i.e. micromanaging, taking on more projects, working longer hours, not taking a vacation, eating at your desk)

2. Cynicism

• There’s a lot of humor around cynicism, but in the case of burnout, it is something that constantly surrounds you, and you start living in this place of worst-case scenario, expecting the worst from every occasion, always expecting to get in trouble.
• Anger and irritability can accompany the cynicism, and can not only affect you but those around you.

3. Personal efficacy

• When nothing we do feels good enough
• Work becomes all-consuming, trying to prove that their work is good enough, spending an inordinate amount of time over details
• There’s a pendulum shift among Gen-X’ers who get frustrated with Millenials, who are seen as lazy. It’s not actually laziness that is being seen but an enormous amount of responsibility that is being thrown at them.
• Letting work define you is not healthy.
• People who stick to their job description as a way of self-preservation are often shamed.
• Changing workplaces if you’re in burn out might be needed in order to get well again.
• You understand the skills you have, and the work you’re good at, but what’s the environment that’s going to get the best out of you? 
• Doing a “wheel of life” is a simple therapy tool that can help you reconnect with what you want.
• Identifying your core values and being true to them helps set boundaries.
• Prompts: you have a start time and an end time to your day.
• Choosing a transition activity between work and home.
• Leaving your work at work.
• Making small changes, but just one thing at a time. That way, you’re not setting yourself up for failure. Remind yourself of progress, and what wellness looks like.
• There’s going to be days where you go backward, but look how far you’ve come!
• Powerful question for men: “What type of role model do you want to be for your kids?”
• Jo teaches people how to calm down inside, and reset what’s important to them.

Resources:

Her Life Unscripted Facebook Page, give it a LIKE! 

https://www.facebook.com/herlifeunscripted/

Special Invitation: Shine Retreat is coming up September 27^th - 29^th, 2019!! 

Registration at: https://www.shineretreatforwomen.com/

Email me at info@ShineRetreatforWomen.com to receive a $50 discount code off registration.

You can also reach me at anna@herlifeunscripted.com.

“Shine Retreat” is limited to 40 women.

How to contact Jo: 

https://www.purpleco.com.au 

https://www.jomuirhead.com 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/purpleco/

Today’s show is going to be about whole-body wellness. I think a lot of what my audience struggles with and what we talk about on the podcasts is the negative loop of being everything for everyone else, and not being able to be anything towards ourselves. The cycle of wanting to give outwardly but not knowing how to give inwardly when we’re called to serve. 

My guest today is Diana Rudolph, a self-described “health educator”, and she is a sponsor for the upcoming Shine Retreat. She is an exceptional woman, and I relate to her on so many levels, and learn so much from her.

Join us as we discuss listening to our body’s cues for help, discerning how we need to address it, and actually making that time for ourselves. You’ll also hear about historical and modern uses of essential oils. 

Diana is a dōTERRA Essential Oils independent consultant, expert in wellness and health, a wife, mom of 3 kids, a busy professional who’s passionate about empowering people to value their health through holistic and active living. She’s been involved in health and fitness for the last 17 years, serving as an Adjunct Professor of Kinesiology at Azusa Pacific University, a certified fitness trainer and health educator, and an essential oil educator. Diana holds a Master’s Degree in Public Health, a Master’s Degree in Education, and has developed a variety of health promotion and prevention programs designed to combat childhood obesity. She loves teaching about essential oils and other natural solutions to promote overall wellness.

Show Highlights:

• Many times, the version of health we see is what the scale says, or how we look on the outside.
• One of the biggest barriers of women taking care of themselves, is time.
• Women are natural caretakers. We are so quick to give and serve, and it’s easy to forget to give to yourself.
• When you’re running on low, you're not able to give your fullest.
• Instead of taking an hour to exercise, it might be easier to separate it into 4, 15-minute chunks of time. 
• Anna shares a personal experience from when her twins were born. She was exercising without realizing it because she thought she was just feeding her soul.
• Discerning what we need, and spending time on things that feeds us, rather than depletes us. 
• Slowing down enough so we can answer those questions.
• When we neglect our health, it sabotages the bigger dreams we have for ourselves.
• Diana recalls her struggles as she was finishing her degree with a young family at  home.
• Diana enjoys journaling, and likens it to a detox. She can review her written thoughts and find ways to balance her life.
• Listening to your body’s red flags and signals. 
• When our heart is hurting when we’ve been through some emotional trauma, our body can respond negatively, as well.
• Discerning what part of yourself needs help (body/mind/soul). This will look different for everyone.
• Diana addresses essential oils, natural solutions, and alternative health care, and using nature to help our health in so many ways.
• There is true, evidenced-based research on this, as well as historical uses, as Diana reveals.
• Essential oils are very easy to use, and address many issues, but they are not a cure-all. You still need to look at nutritional background and other factors, as well.
• People start doing these little drops every night and they start noticing significant differences and positive changes, and they’ll want to know what else is available.This is often an introduction to a “health prevention method” and opens their mindset to other health tools, Diana finds.
• Diana and Anna share how essential oils and other alternative solutions can be complementary to western medicine.

Resources:

Her Life Unscripted Facebook Page, give it a LIKE! 

https://www.facebook.com/herlifeunscripted/

Special Invitation: Shine Retreat is coming up September 27^th - 29^th, 2019!! 

Registration at: https://www.shineretreatforwomen.com/

Email me at info@ShineRetreatforWomen.com to receive a $50 discount code off registration.

You can also reach me at anna@herlifeunscripted.com.

“Shine Retreat” is limited to 40 women.

Follow Diana on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/dianarudulph/

Diana’s doTERRA link: http://my.doterra.com//dianarudulph

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/diana.rudulph

Live and virtual lessons!

Disclaimer: This particular episode has an Explicit Rating, and is not meant for younger ears.

Today, I’m so excited to bring you yet another sponsor of the upcoming Shine Retreat, Gaelyn Rae Emerson.

Have you ever struggled with moving forward in the aftermath of a failed relationship? There’s trauma associated with the complex emotional process of disintegration. Gaelyn understands first-hand, and being able to see a way to serve and help others in the midst of her own pain was a powerful awakening and an asset to her healing. Please join us today as we dive into some profound matters of the heart, and the process of working through them.

Gaelyn is madly, passionately, head over heels in love... with her job. :) As a professional life, relationship and divorce recovery coach, Gaelyn dedicates her working hours to helping her clients survive and revive - whether or not their relationships do. Gaelyn is credentialed by the International Coach Federation, with advanced training in relational trauma for survivors of abandonment, abuse, addiction, betrayal, deception, divorce, infidelity and more. Gaelyn coaches clients around the world, through her online private practice, Women Ever After. Gaelyn is known for (and lives by) her collection of meaningful, expressive and well-timed quotations. Her current favorite is this quote from the Baal Shem Tov: “Let me fall if I must. The one I will become will catch me.”

Mari Lee, my co-host for the upcoming Shine Retreat for Women, and I would like to extend a personal invitation for you to join us September 27^th - 29^th, at this restorative women’s retreat, the ultimate self-care weekend where every woman is welcomed. You will be among friends! I encourage you to email me or Mari Lee at info@ShineRetreatforWomen.com to receive a $50 discount code off registration. Shine Retreat is limited to 40 women, and it’s filling up fast, so be sure to register at https://www.shineretreatforwomen.com/.

Show Highlights:

• Divorce is traumatic even when it’s also a necessary act of self-preservation. 
• The act of divorce does not end the trauma but compounds it by adding another layer of trauma.
• For many women, divorce often involves an increased opportunity and risk for relational abuse.
• There’s a prolific shift in your support system post-divorce.
• Some women adapt to the trauma, manage that trauma, by becoming used to that standard of fast and furious, turmoiled emotions.
• Transitioning to a life that is not about constantly dodging the fast and furious assaults can be its own interesting transitional period.
• When a relationship is terminally wounded, you still have to survive, even when the relationship doesn’t. 
• There are many more resources for assistance today than there were even a decade ago.
• “Roadmap Gap” - Gaelyn explains that the roadmap gap is when you reach a screeching halt in the standard guidelines for how to heal because you’re doing without the cooperation of a partner, and with the additional layer of trauma induced by the separation or divorce. The end result is that you feel marginalized. 
• Learning how to simultaneously (or in adjacent or successive seasons) cherish everything that was good, while you’re grieving and detaching from everything that wasn’t.
• Giving permission to miss the beautiful life and love you shared with someone, even amidst of despising the uglier parts of the abuse or the abandonment.
• Labeling aspect of how you see yourself in the aftermath (survivor? victim?).
• Self-Discovery: Defining who you are outside of the relationship and the experience.
• According to Gaelyn, working through relational trauma is difficult, and some days you’re going to be flattened. . .and you will get up. . .and the next day, you grow wise.

Resources:

Her Life Unscripted Facebook Page, give it a LIKE! 

https://www.facebook.com/herlifeunscripted/

Gaelyn’s Website: https://www.womeneverafter.com/

Special Invitation: Shine Retreat is coming up September 27^th - 29^th, 2019!! 

Registration at: https://www.shineretreatforwomen.com/

Email me at info@ShineRetreatforWomen.com to receive a $50 discount code off registration.

You can also reach me at anna@herlifeunscripted.com.

“Shine Retreat” is limited to 40 women.

Mari Lee, my co-host for the upcoming Shine Retreat for Women, and I would like to extend a personal invitation for you to join us September 27^th - 29^th, at this restorative women’s retreat, the ultimate self-care weekend where every woman is welcomed. You will be among friends! I encourage you to email me or Mari Lee at info@ShineRetreatforWomen.com to receive a $50 discount code off registration. Shine Retreat is limited to 40 women, and it’s filling up fast, so be sure to register at https://www.shineretreatforwomen.com/.

On today’s podcast, I’m here to share with you about this last week and want to hear your feedback and learn from your wisdom.

Do you ever have those weeks where you’re cruising along, you’ve got a to-do list, and you get some things done, but it’s not a matter of life or death if you don’t?

Last week I had a huge list of things that had to be done, but the way I had poorly planned my schedule I was going to fall miserably short.

Being an optimist, I see the glass as half-full. Therefore, when I look at a project, I think it won’t take any time at all, but in reality, it needs more time than originally estimated. So that’s what happened last week. I had more than I could possibly handle, and I made a lot of promises that I could not fulfill, and I let a lot of people down.

Please join me as I delve into negative head chatter, the way we talk to ourselves, and the unrealistic expectations we hold for ourselves. Let’s explore what happens when we lean into our disappointments and failures. Let’s talk about grace.

Show Highlights:

• Optimists see the glass as half-full and may underestimate the time it takes to complete a task.
• Learning to listen to negative head chatter and what it can tell us 
• Leaning into our disappointments
• Apologizing and offering to make things right when we’ve fallen short
• Why do we give others grace that we won’t extend to ourselves?
• Shame that smashes into sense of self based on an action
• We need to allow ourselves to make mistakes, to be human.
• Three ways we can learn to stop verbally and emotionally assaulting ourselves when we mess up:

• You must work on the shame.
• Reach out to your community and the people you’ve fallen short with and have a conversation. 
• Be open to the idea that what you’re categorizing as disappointment may be totally unrealistic.

• Sometimes, the expectations we set for ourselves are not on anybody else’s radar.
• The three steps can also work in other areas that clutter up headspace, aside from leaning into your disappointments.
• Cleaning up your headspace is the most important piece when it comes to our need to be able to move forward from our mistakes.

Resources:

Her Life Unscripted Facebook Page, give it a LIKE! 

https://www.facebook.com/herlifeunscripted/

Book Mentioned: John C. Maxwell, Failing Forward

Special Invitation:

Shine Retreat is coming up September 27^th - 29^th, 2019.  

Registration at: https://www.shineretreatforwomen.com/

Email me at info@ShineRetreatforWomen.com to receive a $50 discount code off registration.

You can also reach me at anna@herlifeunscripted.com.

“Shine Retreat” is limited to 40 women.