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Her Life Unscripted

Her Life Unscripted is the podcast for burnt out, stressed out and stretched thin women looking for inspiration as they embrace the unscriptedness of life. Your host, Anna Osborn, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, is a wife, momma of toddler twins and business owner who specializes in relationships and building a collective voice for women. Anna Osborn, LMFT, interviews female entrepreneurs, working and stay at home moms and women whose work is dedicated to supporting and creating community for other women. Her Life Unscripted podcast is about support, love, encouragement and being brave, even when life gets hard.
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Jul 30, 2019

Today, I am thrilled to introduce yet another sponsor for the Shine Retreat, which is coming up in September. I’ll be giving you more information on how listeners of this podcast can get a $50 discount off registration, so you’ll want to listen in!

Today’s guest is also a dear, dear friend of mine who has been on the podcast one other time. She was so supportive and encouraging to me when I first started out. Our friendship has evolved though the years, which has been such a cool thing to experience, and her work has transformed, as well.

Nicol thought she might die in that cubicle, and that's when she decided to make some changes. She is now self-employed. She is an expert witness in court (don't tell anyone), a child custody evaluator (for real, don't tell anyone), an author (tell everyone), a motivational speaker (tell everyone) a mom (2 cutie pies), a wife, a mompreneur, a taxi, a motivational speaker, a skincare consultant (hello good skin and tax write-offs), a non-profit director (in all her spare time) a lover of spas and massages and at times "the fit hits the shan" in her life ... but it's hers, and there is beauty in that.

She is here to share her journey with us, this evolution she has gone through, and she will be sharing how to give yourself permission to live the life you want, and how to take risks in order to create happiness in your life.

Here’s more information on the Shine Retreat that I promised you! Mari Lee, my co-host for the upcoming Shine Retreat for Women, and I would like to extend a personal invitation for you to join us September 27th - 29th, at this restorative women’s retreat, the ultimate self-care weekend where every woman is welcomed. You will be among friends! I encourage you to email me or Mari Lee at info@ShineRetreatforWomen.com to receive a $50 discount code off registration. Shine Retreat is limited to 40 women, and it’s filling up fast, so be sure to register at https://www.shineretreatforwomen.com/.

Show Highlights:

  • When we get stuck in fear, it becomes our story.
  • There’s something that everybody wants more of.
  • Our expectations can get in the way.
  • Other’s expectations can appear to be a lack of support.
  • When we get resistance, they are telling us their story, it is not our own.
  • Create a shortlist of those who get to have a say in your life.
  • Women who feel stuck can get trapped easily.
  • By saying “no” to others, it’s saying “yes” to a different set of opportunities.
  • Stay away from emotional vampires.
  • Other people’s stress can make us physically ill.
  • We have a tendency to self-sabotage.
  • Men are taught to take more risks from an early age, so be careful and question what you think.
  • Get past the “what-if’s”.
  • Identify your own definition of “success”.
  • Examine who is in your circle.
  • Get more information about what’s possible, instead of what’s not possible.

Resources:

Her Life Unscripted Facebook Page, give it a LIKE! 

https://www.facebook.com/herlifeunscripted/

Find out more about Nicol Stolar-Peterson here!

http://www.nicol.live

http://www.permissiontosucceed.us

 

Special Invitation:

Shine Retreat is coming up September 27th - 29th, 2019.  

Registration at: https://www.shineretreatforwomen.com/

Email me at info@ShineRetreatforWomen.com to receive a $50 discount code off registration.

You can also reach me at anna@herlifeunscripted.com.

“Shine Retreat” is limited to 40 women.

Jul 23, 2019

Darrin Ford is the special guest I would like to introduce you to today. Darrin is also a sponsor for the upcoming Shine Retreat. 

 

Today, Darrin and I will discuss changing the word “mindfulness” from a trendy buzzword to something tangible that we can apply to our lives and use as a way to tune in to ourselves, to learn and to grow as we move through this journey called life.

 

Darrin Ford is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist specializing in treating addictive disorders. His practice began in Long Beach, California and has extended over the years to include treatment centers in West Los Angeles and Orange County. As co-founder of Sano Center for Recovery, he currently serves as the chief executive officer, runs intensive workshops, and mentors new therapists. He is a certified Sex Addiction Therapist Supervisor, who was trained directly by the pioneer of the field, Dr. Patrick Carnes. He also has Founded The Mindfulness Academy of Addiction and Trauma Training with Mari Lee LMFT, CSAT-S, MBAT-S AKA The Counselors Coach and CEO of Growth Counseling Services. In his years of treating those afflicted with addiction, he ascertained the keystone of mindfulness in breaking free from old patterns, habits, and ways of thinking. Steeped in his passion for science and Buddhist philosophy, he co-wrote the Mindfulness-Based Addiction Therapy Certification Program (MBAT™). His expertise in the field of addictive behaviors can be found in the program, which takes a modern approach to Eastern techniques in exploring the mind. His next book, Awakening to the Addictive Mind: A Story of and Guide to Addiction, sheds an intimate light on his own struggles and how he came to help others on a path he is intimately familiar with. His upcoming book will be available in 2018 Darrin is also available for public speaking events and coaching. For more information please visit www.darrinford.com.

 

Mari Lee, my co-host for the upcoming Shine Retreat for Women, and I would like to extend a personal invitation for you to join us September 27th - 29th, at this restorative women’s retreat, the ultimate self-care weekend where every woman is welcomed. You will be among friends! I encourage you to email me or Mari Lee at info@ShineRetreatforWomen.com to receive a $50 discount code off registration. Shine Retreat is limited to 40 women, and it’s filling up fast, so be sure to register at https://www.shineretreatforwomen.com/.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Show Highlights:

 

  • Mindfulness: Looking at the “mind” in that word. 
  • Is this accurate? Is what my mind telling me aligning with where I am at with my environment and everything right now?
  • Getting as accurate alignment with reality as possible
  • Impulsivity and habits becoming our destiny 
  • Conditioning the mind and recreating conflict
  • Mindfulness exercise activities
  • Addiction at its core is an intimacy disorder
  • Using mindfulness for anger management and conflict resolution
  • We’re sometimes not aware that we use mindfulness
  • Using focus to move into practices that cultivate more mindfulness
  • Suggestions for moments of pause
  • Practice: very simple, but not always easy
  • Compassion is not altruism 
  • Constructive and destructive compassion
  • Destructive compassion helps someone feel better in the short run, but is destructive in the long run.
  • Constructive compassion helps someone heal in the long run, but may anger the person offered it in the short run.
  • Emotions rise, crest, and fall, and as humans beings, we can expect this.
  • Offering ourselves compassion through the distress of feeling an emotion
  • When the pain becomes too overwhelming, we have to have the presence of mind to reach out and share it with someone so they can be present for the process.
  • If someone is suffering from psychotic symptoms, or somebody who has other symptoms of detachment from reality, we wouldn’t want to you to be practicing mindfulness, as it wouldn’t help.
  • Enlisting expert help
  • Overwhelming evidence of how mindfulness works with the neuroplasticity of the brain
  • Darrin shares what’s coming up in his work

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Resources:

 

Her Life Unscripted Facebook Page, give it a LIKE! 

https://www.facebook.com/herlifeunscripted/

 

 

Links to Darrin’s websites:

 

www.sanopress.com 

www.sanorecovery.com

www.TMAATT.com

www.DarrinFord.com 

 

 

Special Invitation:

 

Shine Retreat is coming up September 27th - 29th, 2019.  

 

Registration at: https://www.shineretreatforwomen.com/

 

Email me at info@ShineRetreatforWomen.com to receive a $50 discount code off registration.

 

You can also reach me at anna@herlifeunscripted.com.

 

“Shine Retreat” is limited to 40 women.

Jul 16, 2019

Today, I would like to talk to you about “self-limiting beliefs”. Most folks aren’t familiar with this terribly important concept, so I’m going to deconstruct it, tell you how it works against us, and also how we can stop doing it to ourselves.

I’d like you to know that many of the topics I discuss on this podcast are topics that are close to my heart; issues that I have personally struggled with and I’m walking the path along with you.

Journey with me as we explore the beliefs that hold us back, and how to implement those steps that can get us on the other side of fear, so that we can realize our goals.

Show Highlights:

  • Self-limiting beliefs are something that we impose on ourselves but has intensified due to our environment. 
  • During our lifetime, we can sometimes shift from having realistic expectations to having self-doubt and fear, so that we start creating obstacles for ourselves. 
  • We limit ourselves based on our beliefs in our abilities that are not based on factual information.
  • Beware of language that reinforces the belief that we can’t move past a certain obstacle (“Gosh, I don’t know how to do that” vs “I can’t do that”).
  • Learn to add the word, “yet” to self-limiting language.
  • Self-limiting thoughts are tied into our self-worth, and fear can guide us.
  • We need to identify the beliefs that are limiting us.
  • Writing down our goals actually help us to achieve them because we are creating intentional action towards them.
  • How to react when fear kicks in and tells us we can’t do what we know we can do.
  • The number one thing that gets in our way of achieving our goals, is believing we can’t.
  • Try to understand the theme behind the self-limiting belief, because it is likely there is one central theme that binds them all together, i.e. perfectionism, not being smart enough, not being experienced enough, not old enough or young enough.
  • Once you discover the theme, you can take it on. Do you still want it around? Are there truths in it?
  • Put incremental steps into combatting that self-limiting belief.
  • Fear is ok! 
  • You can look at fear, then walk right past it. 
  • Our confidence is a by-product of being afraid and taking action anyway.

 

Links / Resources:

Her Life Unscripted Facebook Page, give it a LIKE! 

https://www.facebook.com/herlifeunscripted/

 

 

Special Invitation:

Shine Retreat is coming up September 27th - 29th, 2019.  

Registration at: https://www.shineretreatforwomen.com/

Email me at info@ShineRetreatforWomen.com to receive $50 discount code off registration.

You can also reach me at anna@herlifeunscripted.com.

 

“Shine Retreat” is limited to 40 women.

Jul 9, 2019

Today’s wonderful guest is Whitney Boole, LMFT. Whitney is a therapist, coach, and writer in private practice in Hermosa Beach, CA. She provides therapy for individuals and relationships, and she believes pain fuels growth and empowerment. She is also a single mother with three kids, including ridiculously wild twins who climb everything and leave uncapped markers everywhere they go. She runs a Facebook Group for people healing through divorce and is building more resources for those struggling with the trauma of divorce. Whitney's book "You Got This: Healing Through Divorce" was just released May 7 and is available on Amazon.

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Jul 2, 2019

Today, I want to talk to you about expectations, consistency, and perfectionism. Also, how we can reach out to community as we struggle with these ideals.

You know, that strive for perfection, how to have a constructive internal dialogue, and finally, how to be ok with making mistakes.

I would also like to personally extend an invitation to the Shine Retreat for Women, a beautiful event that is coming up September 27th-29th, 2019.  

This retreat is for you if you’re needing to build community connection, restore your soul, or just need some dedicated time for yourself.

I’m offering a $50 discount off registration to all listeners of this podcast. 

Listen in for more information on the retreat, but first, let’s walk through the 3 steps that will help you learn how to lean into the power of being imperfect, together.

Show Highlights:

  • Struggling with perfection
  • Competing with yourself: great quality at times, a roadblock at other times
  • Expectations, consistency, and perfectionism
  • How do we reach out for community when we are struggling with perfectionism
  • We need the village
  • Internal struggle with identity
  • Looking at where we get that strive for perfection when it’s not realistic
  • Stepping back with as much objectivity as possible
  • Practicing making mistakes, and getting messy
  • The paradox of leaning into imperfections to feel more whole
  • Leaning into the power of being imperfect together 
  • What happens when we don’t get recognized for doing a job well
  • Looking for validation from others
  • Control over our choices
  • Negative examples of feeling, though, and behavior
  • Positive examples of feeling, thought, and behavior
  • How journaling about my mistakes makes me more willing to share my mistakes with others
  • Even if you don’t accomplish as much as you’d hoped, you still have value and worth
  • Making mistakes that we’re ashamed of

 

Links / Resources:

Her Life Unscripted Facebook Page, give it a LIKE! 

https://www.facebook.com/herlifeunscripted/

 

Special Invitation:

Shine Retreat is coming up September 27th-29th 2019.  

Registration at: https://www.shineretreatforwomen.com/

Email me at info@ShineRetreatforWomen.com to receive $50 discount code for registration.

You can also reach me at anna@herlifeunscripted.com.

The Shine Retreat is limited to 40 women.

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